Ask Amy: How do we tell our cousin her new pup isn’t invited to our indoor party?.
When she first got the dog, we were hosting an outdoor picnic and she asked if she could bring her pup. Naturally, we said yes. Her pup charmed everyone and the visit went very well. After that, we hosted another (very small) event on our porch. Pup showed up and again, the visit went fairly well.
Dear Unsure: Like many people, I acquired a “pandemic pup” – also adorable and a real crowd-pleaser. And even though my dog is of the portable variety and has been welcome in others’ homes, I assume that any host’s preference is not to have a dog visit. I know this because I wouldn’t want to host a guest’s dog at an indoor gathering.
You’ll have to train your cousin. Simply tell her, “We enjoy your dog, but because we’re going to have a larger indoor gathering this time, we’re hoping you can safely leave pup-pup home.”
People who have adorable dogs sometimes seem to have a blind spot regarding the people in their lives. Your cousin may insist that her dog will not be any trouble. You’ll have to be firm and say, “It just won’t work out for us this time.”
I don’t know the full circumstances, but I was told there was “cause.” Since then many of us have kept in touch with Jo, commiserating and offering support.