Dr. Shefali Tsabary, child psychologist and bestselling author of “The Parenting Map,” says there are six types of gifted kids. She shares her best advice for raising them to be happy, successful and independent adults..
In my two decades of experience as a child psychologist, Ive found that when parents arent attuned to their childs temperament and unique traits, they fail to honor and celebrate their kids authentic self.
There are six most extraordinary and gifted types of kids. Your child may be more of one than the others, or a mix of all. Knowing their type will strengthen your relationship with each other and help them understand themselves better.
Their beauty is that theyre highly sensitive and porous. But this means they tend to absorb the anxiety around them. And what to do they do with all of it? They explode!
Praise them for their abilities to process their environment, but teach them to create the solace they need: "When you feel nervous, close your eyes and repeat to yourself, I am safe, I am home, and I am going to be okay."
These kids are often labeled as "troublesome" by parents and teachers because they can be overwhelmingly active in their mind and body. But their superpower is that they are incredibly curious and engaged.
Show them unconditional acceptance so that they can accept themselves in a world that may repeatedly shun them: "I admire you for your creativity and imagination. Your different ways of thinking can help you do amazing things."
Overpleasers are like butter — soft and pliable, easy to mold and shape — and they are the perfect prey for parents who have a strong need for control.
They fill in gaps, take over chores, and get gold stars. But because theyre eager to help, they often overstep and take over parental responsibilities, becoming the "parentified" adult in the home.